Ownership

When it comes to bathing, grooming, and dressing, we're trying to help the Lark learn to take ownership, so he doesn't do these things just because somebody tells him to, but because he knows it's important or he wants to look nice. Yesterday we had a couple of positive signs. First, after taking a bath and getting dressed, the Lark saw himself in the mirror and noticed that his hair was a mess. On his own, he got a brush and started to brush his hair. He's never shown any awareness of his hair before. After he got started, he asked me for help, and that's fine. It's less important that he can do the task independently than that he actually want to do it. Later, the Lark was in the downstairs bathroom brushing his teeth. Apparently he couldn't remember all the places he needed to brush, because he went dashing up, toothbrush in hand, to the upstairs bathroom, where we have a diagram of a mouth with all the spots numbered. He could have just given up, but apparently he wanted to do a good job.